Parenthood: Two Months in

Parenting: 2 Months In

The delirium has worn off.  Mostly. The adoration has grown. Absolutely.  The routine is starting to reveal itself.  We are just getting to know this beautiful boy.

At some point in the last two months, our neighbor Roberto told us that the first few weeks were the hardest.  But that we wouldn’t remember it. It was true.  We barely remember the first six weeks.  We definitely don’t remember the first two.  

first bath in the kitchen sink
first bath in the kitchen sink
photo of me and baby where we both are lucid and happy by our neighbor Roberto Mighty
photo of me and baby where we both are lucid and happy by our neighbor Roberto Mighty
family self portrait at passover
family self portrait at passover

I’m in love. With the gummy smile and the goofy baby talk.  With his pensive stares and furrowed brow.  With the growing strength of his long fingers that wrap around my thumb.  With the way that he sits perched on his dad’s shoulders and intently takes in his surroundings.  

On the heels of my first Mother’s Day, so far this trip has been both exhausting and wonderful. I wasn’t sure what parenthood would be like.  Helping my parents with extended care of my disabled sister prepared me somewhat with bathing and diaper changing rituals, with the power of music and setting routines.  Seeing so many of my friends take this step before we did also gave me some idea of the major changes in our future.  But experiencing it first hand is a different thing.  

As new parents, we’ve talked about how we are both finding the process of integrating the identity of parent to be a slow one.  We are three.  And that changes things small and large.  Learning to navigate both the dog and the stroller on walks.  Embracing the microwave for speeding up meal time.  Tackling nursing in a carrier, so I can eat my own dinner.  Saying yes and thank you when people offer help.  Accepting that our days are consistently damp with milk and spit up and diaper leaks.  

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Last week, as Mother’s Day posts on facebook prevailed, I read an interesting NYT article about matrescence (the act of becoming a mother).  In this common but nevertheless complicated life shift, we must integrate parenting into our identity, navigate a new family dynamic (in our immediate family as well as extended families) and reflect on our own relationships with our mothers.  It’s worth a read:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/08/well/family/the-birth-of-a-mother.html

if you follow me on instagram, you may have noticed that the feed has been taken over by this charming little man.  

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One of my favorite portraits of father and son above.  As I am the one with the camera, there are many images of these two and not enough yet of me and the boy.  


Fort Point Art Walk

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FORT POINT SPRING ART WALK

Where is Fort Point?  It's just across the channel from south Station, adjacent to the Seaport and technically a part of Southie. Fort Point is one of New England’s largest artist communities, home to over 300 artists who produce work in a wide array of media.

The Fort Point Spring Art Walk is happening on Mother's Day Weekend! Enjoy a stroll through our lovely and rapidly changing neighborhood. What a great way to spend time with your mom. 

While we won't be opening the doors at #601 (coming off maternity leave), I will have some recent pieces up in the building.  

Friday, May 12: Preview all galleries and select studios 4-7 pm
Saturday, May 13 & Sunday, May 14: 12-6 pm

It will be more than studios doors being opened.  There will be performances and public art as well. For a full schedule of activities check fortpointarts.org.

Fort Point Galleries

FPAC Gallery (300 Summer Street) FPAC members show

Our very own Midway Gallery at Midway Artists Studios, 15 Channel Center group show

249 A Street Gallery group show

Atlantic Wharf Gallery at 290 Congress Street Planes in the Sky

Fort Point Public Art Installations

Starry Night by Lisa Greenfield and Daniel J. van Ackere

Location: A Street beneath Summer Street

PYR2014 by Don Eyles

Location: Fort Point Channel, south side of Summer Street Bridge

Channel Center Garage, installation by Joanne Kaliontzis + Spalding Tougias Architects

Location: off A Street + Iron Street, near Channel Center development park

I do hope you make the trip out to explore and see our neighborhood.  I promise you it won't look the same as the last time you were here. And it won't look the same as the next time you come.  


Elopement Photography Boston

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ELOPING IN BOSTON

The original plan was just the two of them.  But when parent's were notified, they decided to fly to to witness and celebrate. And a few more friends joined in for good measure.   

BAY VILLAGE BOSTON WEDDING PORTRAITS

Granted a brief pass from active duty to come up to Boston to get married.  We met up on the stoop of his first Boston apartment.  P was living there in a tiny studio apartment when he and V met.  

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BOSTON CITY HALL WEDDING

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Presided over by City Clerk Maureen Feeney, the ceremony was held in her office, which just about fit the group gathered.  Feeney was, as always, a delightful officiant.  Explaining the paper work before bringing the couple up in front of her bookcase to say their vows.  

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Boston City Hall is a great, and architecturally fascinating, place to have a civil ceremony in Boston.  After the ceremony,  the North End, Faneuil Hall, the Rose Kennedy Greenway, the Boston Public Garden, and Beacon Hill are all just a short walk away.  

WEDDING PORTRAITS IN DOWNTOWN BOSTON

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boston city hall wedding photos blackstone block

post office square boston wedding photographer

In our initial conversation, it was decided that, as they met in the city ad are now leaving, the bride and groom wanted to incorporate a Boston feel to the environmental portraits.  We took a few moments in the Blackstone Block and then Post Office Square before parting ways.  They went off to celebrate at JM Curley's with their parents and friends.  Congratulations!  Wishing you both the best as you set off on new chapters, professionally and personally!  

GETTING MARRIED AT BOSTON CITY HALL

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I love the distilled excitement of intimate weekday weddings.  Ars Magna offers weekday wedding coverage that includes photographing the ceremony and a fun portrait session with our fair city as the backdrop.  

Are you interested getting married at Boston City Hall?  It's easy.  Go to Boston City Hall at least three days before your wedding with $50 and complete the Marriage Intention Form at the Registrar’s Office.  When you can return to City Hall, you can pick up your marriage license and get married!  

Interested in learning more about our City Hall Wedding packages?  Email me now!


Parenthood: Considering the Future

Sharing a few family portraits from our first weeks together as a newly minted family.  My phone seems to be the easiest camera that I can operate while simultaneously feeding or holding baby.  And the pictures from the phone so far are pretty great.  Captured, with my DSLR,  some images but loving particularly the image below of The Engineer playing music for us in the afternoon sunshine. 

We've been in a daze. A soggy and sleepy daze. Nearly three weeks into parenthood, it's more of everything than I thought it would be.  The Engineer recently shared this quote with me.  It brought us both to tears. With all the uncertainty that's swirling around us, both in our own space as new parents and in our nation as a whole, we found comfort in this sentiment.  

Gross National Product counts air pollution and cigarette advertising, and ambulances to clear our highways of carnage. It counts special locks for our doors and the jails for the people who break them. It counts the destruction of the redwood and the loss of our natural wonder in chaotic sprawl. It counts napalm and counts nuclear warheads and armored cars for the police to fight the riots in our cities. It counts Whitman's rifle and Speck's knife, and the television programs which glorify violence in order to sell toys to our children.

Yet the gross national product does not allow for the health of our children, the quality of their education or the joy of their play. It does not include the beauty of our poetry or the strength of our marriages, the intelligence of our public debate or the integrity of our public officials. It measures neither our wit nor our courage, neither our wisdom nor our learning, neither our compassion nor our devotion to our country, it measures everything in short, except that which makes life worthwhile.

And it can tell us everything about America except why we are proud that we are Americans.

-Sen. Robert F. Kennedy at University of Kansas, March 18, 1968


PREGNANCY PICTURES, A PERSONAL POST (cross-posted from Modern Glamour)

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Yes!  This is me! Doing what James refers to as my magazine face. James and I are expecting our first child in a few weeks. As we round this corner, we’ve been overcome with the depth of love, wonder and awe over what being a family means.

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My personal posts have become more and more rare.  This started at some point after my divorce - an experience I did not want to share via social media.  My continued reluctance on revealing my own inner world became more apparent when I determinedly kept the news of my pregnancy off social media.  The reasons were several. In no particular order -

My own struggle with infertility, and divorce, in my early thirties locked me into an internalized chaos.  During that time, it was a challenge for me to share the in joys of my friends who were in successful marriages and starting families.

I was worried that there would be a perception that my business would be over, that I would not be able to continue booking jobs when clients found out I was pregnant.  

As someone born at the tail end of Gen X, I am still uncomfortable placing information about my private life in the public sphere. 

Weeks away from the due date, I still didn’t have any more than a handful of maternity portraits and those were barely portraits being primarily early morning bathroom selfies taken with my phone.  What was the hesitation to make a record of this time in my life? Did documenting this change make it more real?  Or less real?  

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My prenatal yoga and mindfulness practice (thank you Emily Masnoon!) slowed me down to be aware of the changes that were happening, not only in my relationship to James, and my body but to my self.

This new and evolving relationship needed documentation.  

On Sunday, in the midst of bedroom construction (teary goodbye to our epic open floor plan), I set up a new backdrop and began to make some self portraits.  I was feeling good about this moment, about my belly, about embracing this time in our lives.  

James made a half hearted attempt to get in a few images - but his awkwardness in the images prevailed and has requested those are not distributed.  

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It is with delight and gratitude that we welcome a new person into our growing family this year.  James is referring to it as our New World Order (and has created this is a bold red on our calendar).  I expect to continue my work as a portrait photographer and a handful of weddings of course.

My dear friend and new mom, Kiera whose maternity portraits I took at the end of last year,  gifted us a book for expectant parents.  One of the prenatal prompts for writing was What Adventures Have You Already Taken Your Child On?  It was that compelled me to make it down to the Women’s March.  Being there, surrounded by people who care fiercely about justice and compassion, who are ready and willing to make their lives is what I hope for this child.  To be part of a loving community that respects plurality of all people and all kinds of families.

pregnancy photos boston

Valentine’s Day is about expressing and sharing love.  And that requires courage and fearlessness.

In that spirit, I begin this new phase and open up to our personal lives, our inner world, our private selves.

As such, I hope that your day (and week! And year!) is heartened with reminders of the courageous and loving people you have in your lives.  

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!


What's Making Me Happy 2016

2016 gave us a lot.  For me it was a blend of professional growth (launching Modern Glamour comes to mind), personal growth and shifting sense of our collective identity as a community and a nation.  It was also another year in which I was honored to meet and photograph so many beautiful, interesting and wonderful families.  

I've separated my WMMH review into a few categories.  We start with Family Portraits!  

Check out my favorite family portraits from this year here: